“Blame the pattern not the person.”
When we effectively use our relationships and friendships as insight to inform our personal growth, it no longer becomes about what someone said or did or did not do. Instead of picking apart their rationale, punishing them, withdrawing love and trust…. we can choose to turn inwards and use our negative feelings as a source of self inquiry.
The reality is we all have unhealthy patterns and stories that do not serve us. We sometimes end up stuck, choosing people and engaging in behaviors that seem to be repeating patterns and stories we know aren’t good for us, not necessarily because we haven’t grown but because there is past hurt that has not been fully healed.
I was reminded today to not push blame or feel shame when I recognized I was repeating an old unhealthy pattern. Rather, embrace it as a chance to try again with my new tools.
We often repeat patterns because our souls want to heal, grow, and rise in love. It is an opportunity to rebuild self love and trust, as well as author new endings and outcomes. …to have a deep experience of our own growth.
It’s most important to give yourself Patience In the process, kindness in the face of failure, and commitment to creating relationships, patterns, and situations that more fully honor you!