“If we start valuing play more, we’d be paying attention in new ways, with beginner’s mind, with the eyes of a child. We’d see options and possibilities to solve some of the enormous problems we have. Playfulness is woven into our biology. We were never intended to grow into dull, conditioned, petty, prejudiced, miserable adults. We are designed by nature to retain our playful, childlike countenance throughout life. We are a playful species, whether we are 6 months or 60. If we don’t live by our design, we aren’t going to make it.” – Bernard DeKoven
On Playgrounds, Violence, and Shame
“Playground experiences can mold a lifetime.” – Jon Ronson
I recently got to read the book Playground by James Mollison, which is a photography project to capture the diversity of play experiences children had in different countries. He described his motivation for the project at the very end: “When I conceived this series of pictures, I was thinking about my time at school. I realized that most of my memories were from the playground. It had been a space of excitement, games, bullying, laughing, tears, teasing, fun, and fear.”
More interesting is the forward written by Jon Ronson who reflected deeply on his own childhood experiences on the playground which were distinctly coloured by bullying, violence, and shame.
When we engage in play, we suspend reality and can give ourselves space to try on new identities, explore repressed emotions, and self-express in new ways that might otherwise feel risk in ‘normal’ life. It can be as innocent as dressing up in ways that in ‘normal’ life would leave us with a fear of social rejection or on a darker note role playing the villians in our bedtime stories. Our playgrounds are not only places of joy and creativity but also laboratories for experiments with anger, violence, aggression, and our ‘shadow’ selves.
Jon Ronson wrote that “Playgrounds can mold a lifetime”. As I look at all these photos, I can’t help but think that while we absolutely should be thinking about how we shape our play spaces physically perhaps we should be spending more time on how to shape them politically. Who makes the rules and who referees? How far are we allowed to go in our self-experiments one way or another? How do we handle conflict, address violence, and support communication?
As adults, teachers, designers, leaders–we sometimes think we know best. We forge ahead laying out rules, regulations, expectations, we facilitate and supervise, we start to box in play and public activity according to what we think is the most safe. We consult books, best practices, and professionals…. and often forget to ask the one group that matters most–our users. When things go even a little bit array, we jump in to fix, and the opportunity to have a direct experience cultivating skills in negotiation, temperance, independence and personal responsibility is greatly diminished.
What I’m getting at is: when we alienate the users of our playspaces (whether children or adults) from the creation of the rules that govern it and the decisions that physically shape it, we lose the opportunity to come together as a whole community. We loose a chance to have a group dialogue about how we want to live together. To understand collectively our standards for integrity in our interactions. We perpetuate power structures, stereotypes, and personal fears.
I don’t have a strong concluding point except to say that we should, whenever possible, engage in collaborative playcemaking. Engage all stakeholders. Seek out the smallest voices, those disenfranchised and unheard or undervalued. Our playgrounds can be more than just recreation sites… they can be places of deep healing too.
You can see more of his photography online on his website.
Play and sports can be incredible spaces for peacemaking, community building, and personal development.
Strength, Patience, Trees with Steve McCurry
If you would know strength and patience,
welcome the company of trees. – Hal Borland
“Ritual grew up in sacred play; poetry was born in play and nourished on play; music and dancing were pure play…. We have to conclude, therefore, that civilization is, in its earliest phases, played…” – Johan Huizinga
From his book Homo Ludens
Lean Coffee
Lean Coffee is a structured, agenda-less meeting approach that is effective for getting people to create and share ideas. I really like this approach when dealing with slightly larger groups that have some common goal or project but a lot of different directions or areas of focus.
I also think this is a great tool for brainstorming around a specific topic in respect to organizational strategy and direction. By giving people a prompt ahead of time to think about they can come prepared to pitch and bring topics–IE If you were give 10,000 for a program, what program would you want to build and why? or What do you think is the biggest challenging facing our organization right now? / What problem do you think is our number 1 obstacle that needs solving? or etc.
The largest part of what we call ‘personality’ is determined by how we’ve opted to defend ourselves against anxiety and sadness.
Alain de Botton