The Language of Movement

“You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation.”

Language is one of the most important components of civilization. It allows us to express our thoughts, to explore our ideas, and to overcome our problems. And, even though there are thousands of languages, it is hard to find one that is truly universal, one without a huge learning curve, one that speaks across any juncture of age, place, and intelligence.

But it exists.

Movement is that universal language and is, above all, the most accessible form of communication.  Each and every person can both observe and participate in the dialogue with little to no training.  We can express emotion, reflect thought, and expose the complex characteristics that make us each uniquely ourselves.

And though there are many dialects of this Movement language, such as dance, gymnastics, and martial arts, the dialect that stands out, above them all, is Parkour.

Dialect of Parkour

Parkour is a unique physical discipline in that practitioners, known as Traceurs, have complete control over their practice. They choose their environments, they set their own challenges, they make their own rules. The purpose of practice is left to the individual to define. Thus you can step back and really examine–Are their rules non-negotiable or loose guidelines? Do they train in the heart of the public or in the quiet alley behind their home? Are their challenges primarily of the physical nature or the mental?  Complex or simple?  Inspired or out-of-the-pack?

And with these choices, Traceurs weave their amazing stories–stories of who they are, what they believe, and what they want.  With every movement, they clearly reflect their values, personality, and temperament.

A Single Jump

In a single jump, for example, you can read about the characteristics and personality of the Traceur. There will be practitioners who jump with cold, calculating certainty.  Their jumps speak a story of maturity, of discipline and self-knowing. Some jump with violence, revealing a story from their depths–a buried rage to give them a final push.  Others jump with fear, unsure of the end result, unsure of their own selves.

Clumsy jumps, creative jumps, passive jumps, the list can go on, each one uniquely reflecting the jumper, each uniquely telling a story.  Some jumps reveal hesitation and self-consciousness whereas some reveal overwhelming pride and ego, some speak to the degree of creativity and others to a meticulous planning nature.

Don’t understand?  Well then, I ask–go find a jump, whether it is two curbs or two cliffs, and observe how you feel.  Did you pick a jump that scares you or did you play it safe? Is your heart pounding in your chest?  Is the jump a strange one–requiring you to duck when you land so as not to bump your head or relatively simple?  Are you safely out of sight, so no one will see you if you fail or are you in public, hoping everyone will stop to watch?  The more jumps you take, the clearer the pattern emerges.

A Half Hour of Play

So, you can only imagine then, if a single jump can say all that, what can it say in an half hour of play?

Well, look around, look at the people you choose to train with:

  • What challenges do they choose for themselves? 
  • How do they prepare to confront them?
  • Do they seek critique and collaboration or are they isolated in their practice?
  • Are they first to volunteer an activity or do they follow along? 
  • Are they passive observers or active participants? 
  • How do they deal with failure?  Success?

A few years back I attended a Parkour gathering in San Antonio Texas. We had 75+ practitioners, Some as young as 10 and those well in to their 50s, some with years of play under their belt and some new to the experience. And this group, flush with variety, took a trip to a wonderful wooden playground in the suburbs to train.

The group dispersed, each individual finding challenges unique to their interests or skillsets. When walking around, the personalities of each Traceur slowly came out.  One group immediately sought out the largest jumps in the park–ambitious, courageous, reckless, all these personalities followed.  Another group went to the fence line, carefully hopped up on to the rail, and attempted to balance without fail, reflecting different degrees of discipline and patience. And yet another group stood around watching the others move, nervous to join in, unsure of their skills, curiously observing.

And the variations go on. I watched people tremble before jumps, psych themselves up, cool themselves off. Some only worked on challenges found by others, whereas there were those who were only interested in the challenges they could set for themselves. A few played games while others designed obstacle courses.  Some were arrogantly playing to the passerby public, and others were cautiously staying out of sight.

The permutations of personality present there that day were infinite.

Who Are You?

In a half hour of play one can speak volumes, reflecting varying degrees of virtue.  Through a half hour, you can reflect on personal creativity, respect, efficiency, temperance, ambition, curiosity, courage, patience, perseverance, honesty, and so on.  And it is this kind of conversation I value the most, for movement is the language of honesty. Your actions do not lie.

So, next time you step out and seek a challenge, next time you set a jump, ask yourself who you are. 

2013.07.12 On Making Plans and Anxiety

Plans are worthless, but planning is everything.

— President Dwight D. Eisenhower

This.

I am starting to recognize planning or, really, lack thereof, is one of the larger sources of anxiety in my life.  Most of us like to make plans, set up lists of things that need to happen, or create scenarios of how a certain event should go.  Back in January I decided I would drive all the way down to Texas (from NYC) and back over the course of 2 weeks to attend an event.  The weeks leading up, I planned the shit out of this journey.  I figured out sleeping accommodations, best routes, places to eat, people and sights to see.  I planned and planned in hopes of making my journey as smooth as possible.

However, planning, or over-planning, in my case, worked to my detriment. I created absolute-scenarios, with no wiggle room, what-if backups, and built-in flexibility.  We departed NYC a lot later than we were supposed to (3 days late in fact).  To me, I thought eh not too bad, we can make that through… But when over the journey we decided to detour through Georgia to pick up another person, got stopped by the police in Tennessee, couldn’t make it to our sleeping arrangements in time, and had our tires wear too thin, I slipped in to full blown anxiety mode.

This is the place you never want to get.  You never want to let your well-intentioned planning to lead to ultimate emotional disaster.  This trip ended up being significantly more stressful than I wanted and I ended up spending a lot of time worrying and not enough time enjoying myself. 

But planning, when done right, should only increase the opportunity to enjoy without worry.  There just so happens to be the right way to plan and the wrong.  Here are my tips to making great plans that will reduce your stress and keep you flexible:

1. Write down what you want to do and why

Did you want to take a trip to texas?  Meet for drinks? Build a business?  Audition for a choir? Get a passing grade on that upcoming test?  Write clearly what your ultimate goal/plan/end is.  This will give you a good foundation to return to.

Let’s use my trip for an example.  I want to drive down to Texas to attend the Parkour Event in San Antonio because I have a little extra money, want to see different parts of the country.  Plus I would love to have an adventure with Jesse.

2. Write down your fantasy-scenario, but only with the necessities.

Here you get to daydream a bit.  Play out the event from now until finish.  What is your most ideal way of seeing things pan out?  However, don’t go in to too much detail.  Just hit the big ones. 

I dreamt that the ride down to texas would be leisurely.  We would leave with a week+ of time before the event, arrive at my friends house in Ohio, check out the city, and sleep there a night, we would then drive down to another friend in Kansas, and then finally in to San Antonio.  Back up we’d go up the East coast, stopping in South Carolina to see my Aunt and then DC to see my best friend, and finally back to NYC.

Sounds lovely right?  And in this broad stroke I didn’t include all the extra stops I’d need, the things I’d want to do in each city–I left the little details to the wind.  This ensures you don’t build play-by-play expectations (which 100% of the time fail to live up) and keeps you flexible!

3. If-This, Then-This

Now look at your broad stroke and start playing devils advocate.  What if something goes wrong?  What if you get sick and can’t study for three days/nights?  What if your car breaks down?  What if your major investor suddenly falls through?

If-This, Then-This’s are alternate scenarios you build, visualizations you engage in, that allow you to say… if this happens, then this is what we will do.  It is a great way to build flexibility in to your plans.  The more flexible you are, the less stress it will be when things go wrong.

I should have said, if we can’t make it to ohio on time, then find a hotel nearby where we are and tell my friend ill see her soon.  if we can’t make it to ohio at all because we are behind schedule, then we will pass through it briefly (stopping to see a few cool pieces of architecture) and sleep in a different down miles away.

Seems like a stupid exercise, but the more scenarios you can visualize and deal with before they occur, the more relaxed and capable you will be when dealing with them in the future.

4. Establish your Boundaries and non-negotiables

This final step is so important.  Do you need to eat by 9pm?  Do you need to visit Ohio?  Do you need to be partnered up with Acme Adventures Ltd?  

The final step in this process is figuring out what your absolutes are.  What must you do in order to ensure your happiness and success in this scenario?  If not seeing your friend in ohio is going to ruin your entire trip, then make it a priority–make your if-this, then-thats cater to ensuring that you do make it to ohio, sleep over at her house, and see all the amazing architecures that the city has to offer.

And Finally, breathe.

If you get to the point where you still feel overwhelmed, sometimes just stepping back and away is the best thing you can do.  Take a deep breath, a nap if necessary, and revisit the issue.

Planning is a tool to help you deal with complex situations.  When done correctly, planning will keep you cool and calm in a headache of situation, planning will reduce your worry and keep you focused, planning will help you figure out your next steps.  It makes you a more effective problem solver, a more efficient and productive worker, and a more relaxed and flexible traveler!

The trick is to never be finished with your planning.  Never come to an end and say, ‘Ah-ha! this is it! This is the final plan!’  You should never have a single, finalized plan that needs to be followed to the T ….for as they say, if it can go wrong, it will.  Just keep flexible and let your ‘plan’ be in actuality a big deck of cards that you can pick and choose from as your situation changes.

What Can We Do?

at their best, there is gentleness in Humanity.
some understanding and, at times, acts of
courage
but all in all it is a mass, a glob that doesn’t
have too much.
it is like a large animal deep in sleep and
almost nothing can awaken it.
when activated it’s best at brutality,
selfishness, unjust judgments, murder.

what can we do with it, this Humanity?

nothing.

avoid the thing as much as possible.
treat it as you would anything poisonous, vicious
and mindless.
but be careful. it has enacted laws to protect
itself from you.
it can kill you without cause.
and to escape it you must be subtle.
few escape.

it’s up to you to figure a plan.

I have met nobody who has escaped.

I have met some of the great and
famous but they have not escaped
for they are only great and famous within
Humanity.

I have not escaped
but I have not failed in trying again and
again.

before my death I hope to obtain my
life.

-Charles Bukowski

2013.06.19 On Parkour

While Parkour can improve physical fitness and overall coordination, (and provide many other benefits), one of its main intents is to teach people how to avoid, manage, and overcome both fear and conflict.

From Obstacles to Opportunities: Why You Should Learn Parkour

We all have our own map of the city in our head.  For most it remembers where our favorite places are to eat are, where our friends live, where to get coffee, where to hang out, and so on.

My map, however, remembers where the best places are in the city for an adult to play; Little dots light up across the mental landscape pinpointing locations of sturdy scaffolding and rough concrete barriers, with play-friendly public spaces, and large oak trees with branches that hang low enough for jumping on.  It records every physical challenge we’ve completed and all the ones yet to be. It knows the difference between public spaces that tolerate and ignore play and those that embrace and encourage movement.

This map is a unique map of textures and temperatures and human activity, of tested and untested public and private relationships, of enjoyment, tolerance, and rejection–and it is a map that could only come to be through Parkour.

What is Parkour you ask?

What Is Parkour?

Parkour is a discipline of movement and self-improvement that teaches one how to overcome any obstacle both efficiently and creatively, using nothing more than the human body.  This playful platform of movement encourages interaction between yourself, others, and your environment.

Traceurs, or individuals who practice Parkour, thus know the city like no other. We study textures, we grip, we feel how sturdy our obstacles are. As we walk through the city we are compelled to interact with it; running, jumping, climbing, crawling, swinging, and balancing. The mere act of walking around becomes an adventure, leading us to look for new challenges, new ways to improve ourselves.  Can I jump from this curb to that one in a single bound?  Can I slip through this scaffolding without touching the bars?  Can I balance along this rail without falling once?

And it is this type of interaction with the city that there needs to be more of–this engaged awareness, this parkour mentality. It brings new life to both popular public spaces and those leftover and overlooked. Things that once slowed movement–benches, tables rails, walls–now become elements that enable .  Obstacles become opportunity for growth, imagination, and play.  And suddenly there is no mission impossible, there is no challenge too great.

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This playful view of the world, this parkour mindset and approach to life, is something we all once had.  At one point, when we were at our youngest, we didn’t understand the word ‘impossible.’  We believed in ourselves, we took risks, we wrestled for hours with how to get across the playground without touching the ground (it was lava, remember?).  We tested ideas and learned of our limitations.  We became the ultimate problem solvers.

As we grew older, however, we lost that unwavering resolution, that uncapped potential.  We scraped our knees, we broke a bone, our parents panicked at the sight of blood.  We were told that some problems were too hard or impossible and that either we weren’t strong enough or smart enough or old enough.  …That we never would be.

But this isn’t the truth.  This is just the world trying to tell you to grow up, to color inside of the lines, to fit the mold, to play it safe.

So I want to demand an answer: Why is this considered the right thing to do!  Why have we allowed safety to be emphasized to the point of instilling fear, insecurity, and inability in both children and adults? Not only does this obsession with safety decrease the number of real opportunities to create and engage with your environment, it also severely limits self-exploration of personal (physical+mental) abilities and limitations.

 And if we continue to place emphasis on being overly safe we’ll end up only creating the unsafe–a world where people don’t know how to confront complicated challenges or to cope with uncertainty.

As famous playground designer Paul Friedberg explains, “[Our problem is that] We want the child to be living in a padded box. [But] A child has to have the real world, fraught with challenges to overcome.”

Return to Play

So, there needs to be a return to play.  True, fulfilling, authentic play, where children and adults alike can seek out real challenges, navigate real risks, and begin to honestly understand their physical and mental capabilities. …Play through which they can really grow.

And Parkour is one of those few disciplines that can provide this holistic platform of play while acknowledging this already pervading atmosphere of fear.

Through the medium of games and challenges, Parkour encourages curiosity and experimentation, builds strength and self-confidence,  and of course teaches the value of risk and the importance of facing your fears.

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Furthermore, Parkour teaches creative problem solving.  A simple game of hopscotch can be transformed in an exercise in problem-solving when squares start to appear on the sides of walls, under railings, on low ledges.  In practice we learn that techniques that work in one situation may not work in another.  We are forced to explore alternative solutions, other ways over/under/through the obstacles we face, to find a way that we may not even have seen or tried.  And through this process, Parkour teaches us how to adapt to every situation, to think outside the box.

As to those safety concerns, through its practice Parkour ingrains safety.  You learn how to run properly, to jump and land without impact, to move without hurting yourself.  It teaches you not only how to assess the risks associated with any challenge you face, but how to judge it to be within or outside of your abilities.

So, forget buying expensive equipment or building one of those sterile play-structures in your backyard.  Teach your children Parkour, learn it for yourself.  With only a pair of shoes and their imagination, one can learn how to seek out challenges and games alone.

For Teens & Adults Too!

Especially, we would like to emphasize how crucial it is to teach children Parkour as they enter their teenage years.  You see, as children get older they outgrow the playgrounds they know so well.  Most  of those constructed around the country are designed for children under 12 and restrict children older. Even if there aren’t any signs forbidding play, the dirty looks of adults say enough.  ‘You don’t belong here, you’re too old to be playing here.’ Teenagers and adults alike are cast away from the only spaces their communities provide for play.

And, at a time so crucial for defining who they are, society shepherds teenagers and adults away from the playgrounds and into other public spaces, where play is no longer the apparent intention.  Rather, these public spaces and parks offer benches to watch some tourists and enjoy a vendor hot dog, a patch of lawn for a nap or cloud gazing,  windy paths that lead to no where and offer nothing but a view.  (And we wonder why obesity is an issue, hm).

Now, we’re not saying that we’re against benches and ice cream and napping on a nice sunny day, but these provisions alone clearly offer very little in return in terms of human growth.

Adults and teenagers should have as much of a place to play as children. They need to play too!  The same gains we make as children through play will only increase in complexity and magnitude as we age and mature.  Our abilities to assess risk, to problem solve, to cope with uncertainty, can continue to increase and refine themselves ad infinitum.  There is so much growth that can still be gained as we slip in to adulthood.

So Parkour provides that playground, for teens and adults alike.  It provides a world that will never run out of challenges, that has no age limitations and no skill requirements.  And if we teach children while they are young enough, they will never find themselves lost in a world without a playspace of their own.

Obstacles Are The Everyday

Obstacles are apart of every day life, whether it is climbing a wall, getting to work on time, or delivering making a presentation in front of a large group.  The lessons we can learn through play and though parkour--to creatively approach problems, to face our fears, to love and respect the people around us and the world we are in--are lessons that can be carried out through the rest of our lives, and are lessons without completion.

So we urge you to, right now, this very day, to start pinning your map with every opportunity for play, for every chance to grow. To always look for opportunities to become better than you are, regardless of whether you are a child or adult.

Do This!

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